The Key to Healthier Relationships – Psychology Today

“According to attachment theory good quality intimacy, we each develop a style of attachment—the way we relate to others—based on the relationship we had with our primary caregiver. This then becomes the template onto which we project most of our adult relationships. When our basic needs are met consistently by an attentive and loving caregiver, we develop a secure attachment to that caregiver and thus a secure attachment style. Psychologists refer to this type of caregiver as the good enough parent. Children who develop this style of attachment are more likely to end up in secure, healthy relationships as adults.”


To Understand Women, Understand Yourself – The Good Men Project

“Men are from Mars, women are from Venus, eh? From a young age we are taught that men and women fundamentally speak different languages and see the world differently. While this is true in many ways, it leaves us searching externally for ways to understand these foreign creatures – most times, to no avail.”


Overcoming Your Past and Growing Your Intimacy: A Guide for Men  – The Good Men Project

“Seth’s natural impulse was to shy away from showing affection to his girlfriend other than through sex. That made perfect sense to me, since he grew up with a father who rarely showed affection to anyone in the family. Children take their cues from their parents. When we are little, we watch our parents relate to the world. They model for us what is right for them and what is wrong for them. Little minds don’t have an understanding of subjectivity yet. Little minds live in black and white worlds of good and bad. If their parents are doing something, by definition, it is good. And, conversely, if they are not doing something, it is bad.”


14 Questions to Ask About the Quality of Your Relationship – Psychology Today

“With the number of theories about relationships proposed by psychologists, not to mention poets, philosophers, and playwrights, it may seem impossible to come up with anything approaching a reasonable number. Boldly going where few psychologists may venture, however, Northwestern University’s Eli Finkel and colleagues (2014) have done just that by proposing that there are just 14 basic principles underlying all of psychology’s relationship theories. The 14 gets reduced further, in addition, because they fall into 4 categories of questions concerning a different aspect of relationships ranging from their formation to their ending.”


If You Love Her, Give Her What She Needs—Without the Fairy-tale – The Good Men Project

“I’m not a fan of the term “growth hacking”. The very essence of the phrase suggests there are shortcuts that startups can take that will propel them to wild success without having to figure out the block-and-tackle basics of executing a sales and marketing strategy. Short-term tactics can put quick wins on the board, but to win your market for the long term you have to have a strategy for acquiring customers that is both scalable and capital efficient. In my experience, the approach with the highest likelihood of success is to grab the mantle of thought leadership and establish your company as the premier authority on the problem that you solve.”